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Kim Tavendale is an ordained minister & wedding officiant
serving the greater Boulder & Denver metro areas.
Services include weddings, vow renewals, commitment ceremonies,
civil unions, gay weddings, handfastings, baby blessings, house
blessings and remembrance services.
Non-denominational, inter-faith, spiritual & secular services.
are so many questions couples have when they get engaged or
decide to commit to one another. Please email
me if you have a question you would like answered!
You Know: Every flower has a traditional meaning, such
as ivy for wedded love and fidelity, amaryllis for beauty
inside and out, or tiger lilies for happiness and prosperity.
|What are the legal requirements to get married
Both parties must be 18 (or
have parental consent and/or judicial approval under 18),
be legally free to marry or enter into a civil union, and
not entering a prohibited marriage or union. Blood tests and
waiting periods are not required in Colorado, and applicants
do not need to be Colorado residents.
Please visit the Resources
page for the State website and a listing of County offices.
|How do we apply for a marriage licence?
If both parties are over age
18, you must both go
to a county
clerk and recorder’s office to sign an application and
pay the fee for the licence. Currently the fee is $30, and
I highly recommend bringing the fee in cash.
You must both bring proof of your age and identity, such as
a driver’s licence, a state identification card, or
passport, and if you have a SSN you may be required to provide
If either party is divorced or has dissolved a prior civil
union, you must provide the date of the divorce or dissolution,
and the type of court, city, and state where the divorce was
To find your Colorado county clerk & recorder's office,
please visit the Resources
|Are same sex weddings legal in Colorado?
Who can perform marriages in Colorado?
If you choose to have someone
officiate your wedding for a legal marriage, the officiant
must be either an officer of the court (judge of
a court, a retired judge, a court magistrate, a public official
whose powers include certification of civil unions and/or
marriages), a Native-American tribe official, or an ordained
member of the clergy.
Colorado also allows for a couple to self-solemnize, and has
Common-Law marriage laws. To ensure that a proper, legal marriage
takes place, hiring a professional officiant (who should be
an ordained member of the clergy) is your best bet.
|What areas do you cover?
I primarily perform wedding
officiant services in the greater Denver and Boulder metro
areas, but I will happily travel to perform your ceremony
at the location of your choice all over Colorado and beyond!
Please visit the Services
page for more information about the service area and travel
What should I expect from a wedding officiant?
The celebrant or officiant is
the presenter and communicator of your feelings in a ceremony.
You should feel comfortable with the person you choose to
conduct your wedding. You should check that the celebrant
is professional, pleasant, and understands what you want for
your special day. They should be clear about what they offer
you, how they will work with you and/or your wedding planner,
and should put it all in writing, including the cost for the
officiant's services in a contract. Your officiant should
also file the marriage or civil union license with the appropriate
office in a timely fashion after the ceremony.
What should a contract
Your contract should clearly
the date, time and place of your ceremony
- all details of the ceremony requested
- the time of arrival of the celebrant
- any items which the celebrant will need to supply (for
example, a sound system or podium)
- any items the couple is responsible for obtaining (for
example, the licence or unity candles)
- the date, time and place of the rehearsal (if any)
the fee that you have agreed to pay
and the timeline of payment
that you have the final say over the
content of the ceremony
In addition, some high profile or celebrity
couples may require a Confidentiality Agreement. I am happy
to provide this type of contract for discreet service.
|What are the officiant's fees?
Each ceremony is unique and
special. I will work with you to achieve an affordable ceremony
that incorporates all the elements you desire for your special
day. My fees range from $395 to $995 (plus any travel-based
fees if applicable), based on the complexity of the design,
and how much time is anticipated from the start of working
together to the completion of the ceremony. A non-refundable
retainer of $200 is required at the time of booking
in order to secure your wedding date. Please visit the Services
page for more information about fees.
|Do you have any suggestions for us before we call
There's no such thing as a silly
question! Please write down any questions, ideas, special
requests or concerns you may have so that we can go over everything
when we meet. And if there's anything you meant to ask but
forgot, you can always call or email
|What do you do after the ceremony?
After the ceremony, I will file
the marriage licence with the appropriate civic
office either by hand delivering the licence whenever the
county is within the service
, or by Priority Mail or FedEx. I will also provide
you with a keepsake certificate and a printed copy of your
Wedding or Ceremony Service ceremony.
What does the bride do with her engagement ring during
Most brides wear their engagement
ring on their right hand, and transfer it to the left hand
after the ceremony so that the rings may be admired at the
reception. In order for the wedding ring to sit closest to
the heart, tradition has it that the wedding ring is placed
on the left ring finger, followed by the engagement ring,
and then by the eternity ring if applicable.
Will you dress up for our theme wedding?
Yes! I will do whatever it
takes to make your ceremony as perfect as I can. I am happy
to wear a costume, or colour, or learn phrases in
different languages for your special day. I also make my own
stoles, so if you would like me to match your wedding's colour
scheme, I can!
Do you perform gay weddings?
Yes! When two people find love
it should be honoured and celebrated. I am an advocate for
equality and will gladly perform gay weddings and civil unions
as permitted by law for each state, and also commitment ceremonies
where legal protections aren't available to same-sex couples.
We want a wedding, but not to be legally joined -
can we do that?
I offer a Commitment Ceremony
to express your love and commitment to each other, which is
a wedding, just without the legal civil union or marriage
licence or pronouncement as married, and is suitable for all
couples who wish to celebrate their love without a legal tie.
All the solemnity and reverence, joy and love is celebrated
in exactly the same way, as couples pledge their love, lives
and commitment to each other, with beautiful vows, exchange
of rings and signing of the Commitment Certificate.
Do we need a rehearsal?
If you have a large wedding
party or a complex ceremony, I highly recommend a rehearsal,
as it is helpful to not just for the couple, but also for
those doing readings or participating in any rituals. A rehearsal
allows everyone in the wedding party to run through what will
happen during the ceremony, and what is expected of them and
when, so that on the day the ceremony is smooth and enjoyable.
For simple ceremonies, a rehearsal isn't always necessary,
but they can provide a sense of familiarity on a very exciting
I also recommend inviting your photographer and the provider
of music for your ceremony to come along to the rehearsal.
Some songs have a long introduction, so having the DJ there
ensures they know exactly when to cue your recessional song,
and for photographers, knowing when in the ceremony you will
be performing something special, such as a unity ceremony
or signing the licence, ensures they are right in position
to capture the best pictures!
does a wedding go?
wedding programme will often contain all or several of the following
| 1. The
prelude (the minister calls for attention,
or the music changes)
The wedding processional (the wedding
party walks down the aisle)
The opening of the ceremony & welcoming of the guests
4. Some words from
your officiant on love & marriage
Wedding poems, spiritual or romantic readings
The wedding vows
The ring exchange
Performing the ceremony inclusions (Unity
Candle for example)
Signing of the marriage license and/or certificate
Marriage blessing or wedding prayer
The pronouncement of marriage or commitment
The introduction as husband and wife, spouses or life partners
13. The wedding recessional
14. The receiving line
|Will you come to my location?
Yes, I will perform your ceremony
at the location of your choice, from gardens and parks, to
hotels, restaurants, chapels, homes, or even in a hot air
balloon! If you are within the Denver/Boulder metro areas,
there is no additional travel fee. Outside the designated
mileage fee will apply. In certain circumstances, it is appropriate
for you to provide a hotel room for an overnight stay. I am
also available for destination weddings both in the USA and
|How should we pay you?
When you have chosen your date,
I require a non-refundable retainer of just $200 in order
to secure your booking on that day. I will hold a tentative
booking for up to 7 days to give you time to pay the retainer.
Payment of the retainer may be made by personal cheque, cash,
credit card or online
with PayPal. The balance may be paid up to 14 days before
the ceremony date, or in cash prior to the ceremony by arrangement,
or if you wish to pay in full at the time of booking, you
can do that, too!
|What's the retainer and how does it work?
The retainer is a non-refundable portion of your package fee. It secures my services for your wedding date and ensures that I will be there to perform your ceremony. The retainer is deducted from the package that you choose, and can be paid before you decide on a package, with the balance of your package paid later.
What are your rules as to photography?
You may photograph or film
your entire ceremony as you like. You should have all the
records of your special day you want! I will ask if you allow
me to select a photo of us to post on my website - it is entirely
up to you. Some couples aren't comfortable with their image
on the internet, and I respect that. Others are more than
happy to allow me to share their special day online. I do
appreciate getting photos and video of your wedding!
We're a high profile couple - can you be discreet?
Absolutely! I understand some
couples wish to keep their wedding as a personal affair, and
I have a Confidentialty Agreement that can be included in
the contract to ensure your complete privacy. Unless you give
me permission to include you in my website or social media
activity, I maintain a strict policy of client confidentiality.
venues are you familiar with?
I have performed weddings at
most venues in and around the Denver/Boulder metro area. There
are of course still some I have yet to visit! Some of my favourite
venues are listed on the Links page.
say you have an accent - what does it sound like?
My accent is a bit of a hodge-podge
really - a little bit Kiwi, a little bit British & a little
bit American - sort of a mix of all the places I lived as a young person! If you would like to hear a sample, please watch
my video or listen to
ad for a wedding show I did the voiceover for!