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Reverend Kim Tavendale is an ordained minister & wedding officiant serving the greater Boulder & Denver metro areas.
Services include weddings, vow renewals, commitment ceremonies, civil unions, gay weddings, handfastings, baby blessings, house blessings and remembrance services.
Non-denominational, inter-faith, spiritual & secular services. LGBT friendly.
 

WEDDINGS  
Getting married is such an exciting time in your lives! Your wedding is a very important and special occasion to celebrate your love and commitment to one another. Here you'll find some of the traditional types of wedding ceremonies, and also some additional ceremonies that can be included in your special celebration.
If there is a particular spiritual, cultural or religious rite or ritual you would like to incorporate into your ceremony, please just let me know. The whole idea is to celebrate in the way that makes your day memorable and unique. Please also check the FAQ page for answers to common questions, or if you have any questions or need more information please contact me.
I am delighted to perform weddings and civil unions for ALL couples, and serve the entire community as a wedding officiant. Pledging your love and commitment to your life partner is a joyful occasion, and there are many ceremonies to celebrate your joining. My commitment is to make your special day as wonderful and memorable as possible.
Your wedding should be a celebration of the love you share, so I write each ceremony especially for you, and afterwards I present you with a beautiful keepsake certificate and copy of your ceremony to commemorate your commitment to each other.
Your wedding day is more than just signing the marriage license, it's the opportunity to speak the words of your heart to your beloved as you pledge your love and lives to one another.
Whether you're looking for a simple and short ceremony, a traditional exchange of vows, or a custom designed wedding experience complete with personally written vows, I am here to help you marry each other the way you have always dreamed.
There are a number of different types of weddings from which to choose...
 
"Thank you so much for choosing to be part of our special day. You have found a way to describe our love so perfectly. You took our love story and put it into words that we are able to share withour friends and family. You have made our day of love come to life. Thanks again for everything."
Alicia & Matt

Civic or Elopement Ceremony:
This is a short and sweet ceremony that typically takes less than 10 minutes. It's perfect for those couples who require a legal ceremony only, or for those who are short on time. While a civic ceremony is usually secular, couples can opt to have a non-denominational version performed.
Secular Ceremony:
Many couples think that because they want a secular service, it will be less "wedding-y" - but that doesn't have to be the case! Secular services can follow traditional wedding programmes, and include beautiful readings of poems or song lyrics, loving vows and ring exchanges, and even unity ceremonies, to create a tender and heartfelt wedding ceremony that truly represents your love.
Non-Denominational Ceremony:
Essentially a traditional wedding ceremony that does not reference any one particular religion, but rather creates an inclusive Christian ceremony. Typically, the traditional elements of sermon, prayer, readings from the Bible and hymns are incorporated into the celebration along with the vows, ring exchange and blessing of the marriage.
Inter-Faith Ceremony:
For couples of different faiths, there can be some obstacles to being married in either of your religious houses of worship, such as a requirement for the non-member to convert. An inter-faith ceremony can be conducted at a mutually agreed location, and blend elements of each faith, taking the best of traditions from both sides and creating a unique and wonderful ceremony that celebrates the love you both share.
Spiritual Ceremony:
For those couples who are spiritual in nature, a spiritual ceremony can be crafted to truly reflect your love and beliefs and celebrate your joining in a way that is meaningful to you.
Spiritual can mean many things to many people, and ceremonies can draw from ancient religions such as Wicca, Druidism, and Pagan traditions, and may center on a Handfasting, and some can reference nature, the universe and a sense of Spirit. Many spiritual ceremonies also incorporate such lovely rituals as casting the circle, calling the four elements or directions, the Unity Candle, Jumping the Broom, and Cakes and Ale. However your spiritual nature is nourished, we can build a wedding that is perfect for you.
Themed Ceremony:
It could be as simple as a colour, a season, a country or culture, a time period, or a favourite movie, but theme weddings are very popular! Some fun themed weddings have included...
  • Medieval, Arthurian, Renaissance
  • Viking
  • Star Trek, Star Wars
  • LotR, GoT
  • Harry Potter
  • Dr. Who
  • Shrek, Toy Story, Disney, Princess
  • Alice In Wonderland, Wizard of Oz
  • Video or board games
  • Literary
  • Elegant, High Society
  • Victorian, Edwardian
  • 1920's Flapper, Mobster
  • Western, Old West
  • Pirate
  • Rockabilly, 50's
  • Gothic, Zombie, Halloween
  • Beach, Hawaiian
  • Sports celebrations
  • Movies & famous quotes
  • Cooking, Gardening
  • Fall or autumn
  • Country, Mountain, Rustic
The theme can be part of any one of the types of ceremonies listed above. However you're inspired to celebrate your wedding, I am right there with you to make it the day you want it to be. Now, how do you say "I now pronounce you married" in Klingon?!

COMMITMENT CEREMONIES  
If a legal marriage cannot take place, which can happen for a variety of reasons, this should in no way prevent anyone from the joyous experience of expressing their commitment to each other with a beautiful wedding. In Colorado, with its Common Law Marriage, couples who are waiting for a divorce to come through for example, or who wish to express their commitment to each other without being legally married, can do so with this loving ceremony. Even though I can't pronounce you "married" or sign a marriage license under Colorado law, each couple is presented with a beautiful keepsake certificate to commemorate their commitment to each other.
Commitment ceremonies can include a great many wedding elements, and my commitment is to make your special day as wonderful and memorable as possible.

RENEWAL OF VOWS
What a beautiful expression of love and commitment for couples who have been married for years, be it one or sixty! Renewing your vows to your spouse, knowing them as well as you do, and having weathered life's ups and downs together, makes it a very special ceremony indeed. This could be your chance to "do it your way" and have and do and say everything you may not have been able to the first time!
Again, you can choose to renew your vows with any of the types of ceremonies listed under the Weddings section.

HANDFASTING
Traditionally performed by ancient Vikings and Celts, and those of a Pagan faith, Handfasting was used as either a betrothal or marriage ceremony, and the phrase "tying the knot" is from this ritual. The vows taken may have been for "a year and a day," a lifetime, or for "all of eternity."
Modern handfastings are performed for both same-gender and opposite-gender couples and some couples opt for a handfasting ceremony in place of, or incorporated into, their wedding as either vows, a unity ceremony, or in the pronouncement of marriage to proclaim that they have officially tied the knot!
The variation on the handfasting ceremony and the elements included are generally up to the couple being handfasted. As summer is the traditional time for handfastings, they are often held outdoors.
In a basic handfasting ceremony, the couple presents their clasped hands to the celebrant, who binds the wrists with a cord, effectively tying the hands together, while speaking the words chosen by the couple to represent their joining. Some couples also invite family and/or the wedding attendees to add a cord or ribbon to their bound wrists to symbolise their support of the couple. There are many variations of handfastings, with 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 7 or even 10 coloured cords!
Choosing where to place handfasting in the ceremony is integral to everything flowing smoothly. Most agree it is best to either start out with the handfasting or end with it. Ending with the handfasting is great, especially if you are going to be jumping the broom or sword together.

INCLUSIONS  
There are many wonderful rituals and rites that can be included in your ceremony. Apart from traditional ceremonies, Inclusions can incorporate special traditions that you & your beloved have created together, or be cultural or family traditions that you want to honour on your wedding day. Listed are a few popular ones, but if you have something that you would like to include in your wedding, please just let me know!
Unity or Togetherness Candle:
In this lovely expression, two lives joining together is symbolised by the couple each taking a single lighted taper, bringing them together and lighting a central candle.
Some couples like to receive the individual candles from their parents or children, or have them light the candles, to include them in the ceremony as giving their blessing and support to the union. The taper candles may be blown out, to signify that two have now become one, or the may remain lit to remind the couple that their individuality remains and that their flame, when shared with another, loses nothing.

Unity candles can be traditional in white or ivory, or pull colours from your wedding's palette, or from other wedding cultures, such as red for Chinese weddings. You can purchase triple candle holders made especially for this ceremony, or use decor items.

Unity Sand Ceremony:
The Unity Sand Ceremony, a celebration that is usually two to three minutes in length, is a meaningful symbolic joining of two lives. In this timeless ritual, the couple ceremoniously pours various colors of sand from separate containers into one special container, the unity vase, symbolizing their coming together as one. For couples who are blending families, each child can also participate, adding their own colour of sand to the vase to symbolise the creation of a new family.
The Sand Ceeremony can also symbolise the Four Pillars of Marriage, or be personalised to suit each couple. This ceremony is perfect as an alternative to the Unity Candle ceremony when the wedding is held outside.
Breaking The Glass:
At the conclusion of a Jewish wedding ceremony, the groom smashes a glass with his foot. It is best to choose glass that will be easily broken, such as a thin goblet or a light bulb, and cover it either with a ceremonial pouch or a thick, decorative towel or napkin.
The meaning of this act is disputed. One interpretation is that the marriage will last as long as the glass is broken - forever. Another interpretation is that people need to remember those who are suffering even in their greatest moments of joy, and to remember the destruction of the second temple. Some jest that it is the last time the groom will get to put his foot down! After the breaking of the glass, the guests yell, "Mazel Tov!" which means good luck.
Jumping The Broom or Sword:
This tradition is believed to be rooted in the history of slaves who brought the practice with them to America. Its origins began in ancient Africa when couples would jump sticks to signify entering their new life together. Since slaves were not allowed to marry, they continued a time honored tradition and used this ritual to signify their union.
Jumping the broom is also used in Handfasting ceremonies and pagan weddings. Because the broom is significant in Wicca to sweep away negative energy, modern paganism uses the ritual in handfasting and commitment ceremonies. Some say it indicates the couple's acceptance of the daily chores of living together, or it is an alternative to being carried over the threshold. It can also be viewed as a symbol of home and hearth, and jumping into a new life together. The broom is often decorated with flowers and ribbons, and laid in front of the couple, who leaps over it and then are declared married.
Others believe it derives from the tradtion of leaping over the sword, which is an ancient tradition symbolising marriage, and often used in military weddings well into the 19th Century. A sword would be placed on the ground, and the Sargeant or Corporal would say "Leap rogue, and jump whore, and then you are married for evermore," and the happy couple would jump across the sword and be considered married.
Unity Bouquet:
This is a lovely ceremony for family members and friends to participate in the wedding and creates a wonderful gift for the couple. Each member of the congregation gives the happy couple a flower to be combined into a Unity Bouquet, which is symbolic of their day or represents a wish for their lives together.
Flowers can be passed out before the procession for each person to take one, think of a blessing for the marriage, and place it in the vase at the front of the room. The unity bouquet represents the loving contributions of friends and family members to bless the couple's marriage, as they have their life.
Did You Know: Every flower has a traditional meaning, such as ivy for wedded love and fidelity, amaryllis for beauty inside and out, or tiger lilies for happiness and prosperity. Visit my Resources page to learn more!
Wishing Stones:
Wishing stones are presented to guests upon their arrival. They hold them in the palm of their hands and make a wish for the couple’s life together. Wishes can consist of anything from a healthy family to eternal love. A great way to add extra sentiment is to provide felt tipped pens for the guests to write their names and wishes on.
The stones can be collected in a glass jar or keepsake chest, and then presented to the couple at their reception. This ceremonial addition can become an anniversary tradition for the couple, as they can remember and relive the warm wishes of the friends and family members who gathered to celebrate their love.
Seedling Ceremony:
The Seedling Ceremony is a combination of seedlings or seeds planted into a symbolic planter by the bride and groom. This is a wonderful inclusion for the eco-friendly couple, whether you choose to plant just one seedling, or a little garden.
Once the seedlings are covered by dirt, the couple pours water over the seedlings to nourish them. After the ceremony, the newly formed plant is brought to the couple's home to be planted in a special spot selected together.
The couple may also choose to give packets of seeds or "seed paper" cards as wedding favours for their guests to take home and plant in memory of the special day.

White Dove Release:
This is a lovely ceremony for outdoor weddings. At an appropriate time in the ceremony, the doves can be released in to the air, creating a spectacular sight for everyone to enjoy. As with all events involving animals, proper care must be taken with them to ensure their safety and comfort. Therefore, please be aware that not every venue is suitable for live animal releases.
For ceremonies along the Front Range, please contact Emerald Glen Doves.
Wine Ceremony:
There are so many ways to celebrate with wine in your wedding! Wine has long been held to be a staple at all celebrations - some even call it the blood of life! Please note: Couples must be 21 and over to enjoy this Unity Ceremony.
Blending two wines together from separate bottles into a single decanter symbolises the joining of two people. The blended wine is then poured into two glasses, and each drinks from their own glass, then exchanges glasses with their beloved to symbolise the sharing of all that they are together.
The Loving Cup ceremony is more Celtic in origin, and in this ceremony, wine is poured into a single cup, often a decorated chalice specially for the occasion. The couple each takes a sip, first to toast to their love in the past, then to toast to their love on this day, and thirdly to their love in the future.

Salt Ceremony:
Salt has long been held as integral to human survival and also as historically significant to virtually all cultures around the world. In ancient times, people were paid in salt, giving us the word "salary" for payment of someone's work, took oaths with their hands in salt, and even made solemn agreements binding with an exchange of salt.
With all the beautiful varieties of salt available today, from the gorgeous pink of Himalayan salt, to the greys of Celtic salt, and the amber and black and white salts, a great amny unity ceremonies can utilise salt, from a variation on the Sand Ceremony to the Roman-style agreement, to the Christian Covenant of Salt.
Signature Cocktail Ceremony:
This is such a fun way for couples to express their personality!
Creating a signature cocktail, and making it together is a bright and colourful moment in your ceremony - plus, you get to drink the result! After you've made the cocktail, you can toast each other and your love with your signature drink.
Whether you choose an eye-catching layered cocktail, something classic like a martini, or mix one up in an cocktail shaker, you can incorporate elements from your wedding such as a theme, colour scheme, or create the signature drink that defines the style of your celebration & can be enjoyed by your guests during either cocktail hour after the ceremony or throughout the reception.
Please note: Couples must be 21 and over to enjoy this Unity Ceremony.
 


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